When you notice someone making error, are you going to share with him or her?
Sometimes, we are just too shy to share bad things with others instead of good things. We feel it’s too challenges to voice out. Before you voice out your opinion with others, always ask yourself, Are you doing this for self-interest? Are you doing this for the benefit of others? Most important, your intention must be right. You are shining your love and compassion even though you are sharing shortcoming to others.
Think about it. If no one sharing shortcoming, the person might never has any change to transform unless he or she can change through self-realization. If a person keep telling lies and never honor his promise, perhaps you can remind him or her that “Do it and not keep giving empty promise.” “You can cheat us yet you can’t cheat your consciences.”
However, you must always find the right time, right moment, right place and also must observe whether the person is willing and ready to listen to your advise. Please give compliment and say something good before you are straightaway to share shortcoming.
When I am sharing shortcoming with others, I always say it in smiling faces to reduce the rejection and also “tense” situation. Of course, to tackle difference people, you must use different method, only one thing never change, your loving kindness.