I love to do gardening and spend time to look closely to all lovely plant, all are so unique and beautiful. Most important, there are plenty of good lesson of life for us to learn. When there are changes of the plant, e.g. Falling leaves, turn to yellow, no flowers…, take time to observe what is the actual reason.

I remembered one time, our lovely lemon tree at the backyard just behind our neighbor kitchen. Out of no reason (good nutrition, sunlight, watering and love) that the lemon’s leaves were roll up, kept turning to yellow color and dried up. We are curious, what was going on…

During this period of time, our neighbor was kept shouted and scolded her maid in the kitchen, it created the negative energy and it effected to the lovely lemon tree. The tree also in “fear” and “depress”, like it wanted to runaway and yet it can’t. So, it shown all sign of dying…


Today, I see the bud from lemon tree… A good sign that less scolding and quarreling in my neighbor house.

Its give a great lesson that next round when you are in anger and you want to express your anger by scolding and shouting, how much damages and suffering you are going to bring to “yourself” and “others”? Can you solve the problem by shouting? When you are keep scolding, the people tend to make more error in life as it bring negative impact in life.

My lovely mother always reminded us that “If the family lives harmony, all affairs will prosper. However, when the family keep quarrel and scolding, nothing good will happen.” My mother also sharing a true story that one of her relative, love to scolding, shouting and quarreling with others to the extend that  even a hen can’t lay egg also she can even scolded and blamed on others.

What make her to shut up and transform herself? She went through a bitter experience as 2 of her young children passed away suddenly. She changed completely.


There is a good teaching from  Buddha

“Once a man came unto me and denounced me on account of my observing the Way and practicing great loving-kindness. But I kept silent and did not answer him. The denunciation ceased. Then I asked him. ‘If you bring a present to your neighbour and he accepts it not; does the present come back to you?’ He replied, ‘It will.’ I said, ‘You denounce me now, but as I accept it not, you must take the wrong deed back on your own person. It is like echo succeeding sound, it is like shadow following object; you never escape the effect of your own evil deeds. Be therefore mindful, and cease from doing evil.”

Be mindful on your speech, only give loving-kindness and motivating speech.

If not, be silence!


7 responses to “scolding…

  1. Inside and outside is the same, the world is the mirror of the soul. What is thrown out reflects back at self.

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